The Reflection Series Part 1: What Does it Mean to Be Alive?

A 3-Minute Reflection on Being Alive and Experiencing Aliveness

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It’s interesting to title a post as a reflection series, as every post and/or article that I write is a reflection. Really. All of them. A reflection of myself and the world. Yep. And?

Well, I wanted a place to create a similar dialogue, conversation, and discussion with you in a shorter format. Yes, yes, it’s true. I do tend to write, and write, and sometimes, even write more. My challenge, then? Good question.

My challenge in this series will be to connect with you similarly , yet to do so in under 3-minutes. The next question? Yep, that’s it. Can he do it?

Don’t know. Yet, I do know that I’ll have fun finding out. Ready? Alright, here we go.

A 3-Minute Reflection on Alive and Aliveness

What does being alive really mean? I mean, really? Have you ever pondered what it means to be alive, to know your alive, to really feel alive, and the resulting aliveness, if you will? Hm.

As you reflect upon those questions, let’s take a look at what I see.

When I was growing up, being alive simply meant not being dead. Really. You were alive, that’s all. You breathed in and out, and you did this or that, whatever this or that was, and you lived your life. Yep.

Yet, as I’ve aged, and developed, I’ve come to think about being alive differently. Being alive, or experiencing aliveness, is different from simply accepting, passively, that you are alive, as in my aforementioned example.

Aliveness, for me, is an active activity. Yep, I did just use active and activity back to back.

Right, so being alive is about feeling, loving, working, being, and doing, and doing so intentionally. Creating our intention to live the fullest life possible, whatever that looks like to you, or me, or anyone for that matter.

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There is an important distinction here. Let’s spell it out more clearly.

  • Passively alive – reality happens to me.
  • Active aliveness – I create my reality.

A very important distinction. Why?

Because when we believe that reality happens to us, our locus of control, stay with me, is pointed outward; whereas, when we believe that we create our reality, or locus of control is pointed inward. Very important distinction.

Locus of control? Yep, here we go.

People with internal locus of control tend to expect reinforcements (1) to be the consequences of their own efforts or behavior, whereas people with external locus of control expect them to be the consequences of chance, luck, fate, or the actions of powerful others.

Oxford Reference

There we go.

Basically, locus of control is how we think about the world, and our place in it. Do we believe that we create our life, or is the creation of our life in the hands of someone else.

Now, there are two more important distinctions here. Ready? Here we go.

  1. Locus of control is not a binary – meaning that how people view their reality, and the creation of it, lives on a continuum.
  2. Locus of control is psychological and also philosophical – we will look at the former in this post, and, maybe, the latter in a later one.

Now, when we believe that we create our reality, that our actions cause change in the world, change for us, and change for others; we have an internal locus of control. And?

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And, if we regularly act on this internal locus of control, creating the life we want to live, one action at a time, we will experience more aliveness.

More feeling, more joy, more of, well, everything; and, this moreness in this example, if you will, does also include sadness. Why?

Because we are living more, doing more, creating more, risking more, loving more. Well, doing everything more, so it does follow that we will experience more joy, and also more sadness. It works that way.

Yet, we need not think about experiencing more sadness as a problem or an issue. It’s not. It is beautiful, because we are creating and living out our own authentic life. Fun.

The point?

Remembering that we are the creators of our experience, and, thus, our life.

We create our life, feel our life, and live our life via our intention. An intention about the aliveness we want to experience, which we create in every moment of every day. Now, and, now, and now. Just like that.

Phew. Did I make it?

Be wellness. Be aliveness.

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The Social Construction Series Part 6: The Social Construction of Work

Why How We Think About Our Work Matters

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In the past three years, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we view, internalize, and then perform our work.

Though many people associate work with a particular idea or vision of what work looks like, or should look like, work is a broad concept.

Because work is a broad concept, and, yep, is also socially constructed, it’s fun to ponder how the way we think about work affects how we feel and then do our work.

Right, so before we get too far into this discussion, let’s reset the definition of a social construction, shall we? Good. Here we go.

social construct

Pronunciation /ˌsəʊʃl ˈkɒnstrʌkt/

NOUN

A concept or perception of something based on the collective views developed and maintained within a society or social group; a social phenomenon or convention originating within and cultivated by society or a particular social group, as opposed to existing inherently or naturally.

Lexico

There we go. Now, let’s also define work. Here we go.

work

Pronunciation /wərk/ 

Translate work into Spanish

NOUN

Activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result.

Lexico

Alright, here’s what we have thus far.

Work is something we do to achieve a purpose or result; and, how we define, internalize, and then view our work, like everything, is simply a subjective interpretation about something that people in a society or culture agree upon. Phew.

Alright, yet what does that really mean?

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What does the social construction of work really mean?

Well, it means that how we think about work, the prestige, or lack thereof that we assign to particular types of work is nothing more than a subjective agreement within the particular society or culture that we live in.

Why does this matter? Good question.

Because when we fully understand that work is socially constructed, we are freed to think about our work in any way we want. Our choice. Yep.

Meaning that if you are a person that is cynical about your work, you can choose to become more positive about your work.

And? Passion can follow. Fun.

You can actually even think about becoming more positive and passionate about your work as actively resisting the social construction of work where you live.

Resisting the social norms that set certain types of work as more important or needed, than others. Norms that are also socially constructed.

And?

When we are freed from limited notions of our work, we are also freed to do our work without limits. Making ourselves and our work unlimited. Pretty powerful.

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What is work?

This is an especially fun question for me, as I grew up in a household where there was always lots of work to do. Always.

Yet, there was also always a demarcation between work away from home, let’s call this “professional” work, and work at home. A distinction that was very apparent.

Workdays, as in the days that were associated with professional work, always felt different. During my childhood, these days also correspond to school days, which then created a distinction, for me anyway, that those days should also feel different. How?

Well, they were heavier in some way. Meaning, they were considered, well, work, and that was associated with something that one must do. A compulsion, if you will, which, often, didn’t feel so great.

When we create distinctions between work at home, and work away from home, and create meaning that associates one with a more meaningful experience, we set ourselves up for pain and suffering. Really.

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How many times have you gotten up for work, and hung your head, thinking, and feeling, phew, not today? I know I’ve had many of those days.

And, though those days are not part of my life today, I can still feel the heaviness of that type of thinking. Painful. And?

Well, we can create a whole new way to think about our work. Seeing our work as interconnected, one. Whether we are working in the garden on a weekend, cooking dinner in the evening, or visiting with a client, they are all you.

You are doing all of these things, taking all of these actions.

Therefore, we can release the notion that there is a distinction between work we do at home and work we do away from home.

Why How We Think About Work Matters

When we release ourselves from the aforementioned distinction, which, by the way, only exists in the language we use to create our notions of work, we create more freedom for ourselves; and, at the same time, we can reduce the stress and anxiety we feel about our work.

Releasing the distinction that some work is stressful, not as fun, plain boring, or even painful, while other work is not stressful, fun, exciting, and full of joy, also releases us from the pain that we suffer while we do our work away from the home, whatever that might be. Yep.

And, remember, how we view, internalize, and feel this created distinction about our work, may, nay, will feel completely different to someone else. Both are unnecessary.

It is an unnecessary distinction. Really.

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However, when we create work in language similarly, regardless of what work we’re engaged in, we think about, practice, and feel work the same way, no matter where we are, releasing us from the aforementioned stress, anxiety, and pain. Helpful.

Right, let’s take a look at a couple of quotes about work, shall we?

Here we go.

“Developing a good work ethic is key. Apply yourself at whatever you do, whether you’re a janitor or taking your first summer job because that work ethic will be reflected in everything you do in life.”

Tyler Perry

Positivity Blog

Yep, great.

And, it is a similar attitude that we can hold about the distinction that some work is painless and some full of pain. When we think about all of our work the same way, and approach it the same, guess what?

We end up feeling the same way about all of our work.

“Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming all that we can be.”
Zig Ziglar

Positivity Blog

And, we can think about releasing the distinction between work at home and work away from home similarly. When we are always reaching for and giving all that we can, regardless of the type of work we are engaged in, our work will shine in all areas of our life. And?

Those around us will shine too. It works that way.

“Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
Saint Francis

Positivity Blog

Ah, yes, lovely.

When we release our previously conceived ideas about work, we also release limitations. Yep. Think about it.

When we release our limited thinking about our work, whether that is work at home or more than likely, work away from home, we also create an unlimited context for all of our work. And?

When we are unlimited, we move from that which is impossible, to the possible. Really.

It all starts with how we think about our work. When we fully understand that work is a social construct, created in language, we can create new definitions, or constructions, of our work. We set the standard. Yep.

And? Then we get to live and work in a context that sees no limitation, that feels no limitation, that is now, well, unlimited. Beautiful.

All of our work matters. Matters to each of us, and to all of those around us. Release yourself from any distinction you have about work that creates a false binary about the work you do.

All of your work is important and is further needed. Needed for you, yes, and for your family, community, country, and the greater world.

Be well. Work well.

#becominglimitless, #howwethinkaboutourwork, #releasinglimitation, #social-construction, #socialconstruct, #socialconstructionism, #thesocialconstructionofwork, #whatiswork, #work, #workathome, #workawayfromhome

A Wisdom Poem

Wisdom

What do you see
When you look in my eyes

Of times gone by
Or times yet to be

Questions you have
About that which was grand

And though they are
Present
Please don’t forget

A full life-lived
Knows

That with what was
grand and noble
Comes also, the
Drab and ignoble

Love knows, and
Embraces both

For love we are
Forevermore,
Trying for something more
Is nevermore

For Sadje’s prompt WDYS #52.

Be well everyone.

#life, #live, #love, #poem, #poems, #wdys, #wisdom, #writing

A Blogger’s Diary 10/18/20: Sunday Night Reflection

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As we leave this week behind, and prepare for the week ahead, I wanted to take a moment to thank each of you for the wonderful posts, comments, conversations, and interactions these past 6-months.

I’ve found a wonderful community, filled with light and love, and I appreciate each of you.

I’ve been more drawn to poems this past week, so it is only fitting to complete this week with one more. Here then, is

The Light

In times of chaos and
Fickle fancy roars

Stand inside and
Protect the light

Given us to protect
So please take time to reflect

Upon That which is known
Within the unknown

Seemingly two, yet
Is really One

Of many mysteries

Founded upon a legacy
Granted to each of us
Not taken for

Bear in mind and
Mind
That which is seen

For the light is bright
Which comes at night

Though day breaks
In splendid
Created wonder

Of all that is known
And unknown
Both
Come to the light
At the end of their night

Have a wonderful week.

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A Love Poem

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Trees laid bare
Scorched on high
Winter’s calm
Is in your palm

Wait and see
To be not free

Cast about
In times of doubt

That one can be
Like a tree
Forevermore
And never more

Be one in line
In times of strife

Let loves guide be
Prickled and free

When last we met
Twas a silhouette

Of times gone by
Please do try

To understand my heart
Cloved depart
Of love light lasting
With leaves contrasting

Views of such delight
Fancy of life

Be more my love
And know thy glove
Of two and one
Will stand in union

Have a wonderful Sunday.

#life, #love, #poem, #poems

A Blogger’s Diary 10/17/20: On the Miraculous and Mundane, and A Poem

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Alright, so I’ve also been reflecting upon the miraculous and mundane this week. Yep. True. Why?

Well, there was a time when the mundane was all I really saw. Pretty cynical. Yep. Also truth.

And, it is important for me to keep this truth in my awareness.

You can at one moment see the mundane in the miraculous, just as you can see the miraculous in the mundane. Yep. It is really all about what we choose to see.

Meaning that it is all about how we know ourselves; know and feel our truth. Really.

When we know and love ourselves, we see the miraculous everywhere, and love in everything and everyone. It works that way. Fun and beautiful.

Alright, a poem, here we go.

The Miraculous and Mundane

Blade of grass, mundane
in one moment
And miraculous in another

Just as a crack

in the pavement, miraculous
in one moment
And mundane in another

The viewer views, the
Creator creates, the
Miraculous or the mundane

We view and see, yet
what we see
is not always
all there is to be seen

Look closely within
And ask the questions needed, to
Set yourself free, upon,
and within this life

You can view the
miraculous everywhere,
And in everything

Remember

The miraculous is always there
awaiting your return, and
inner-knowing

Though you may think it gone
mundaneness everywhere
look again with new eyes, and
you shall see
that which was always there
and will always be

That was fun.

As you enjoy your weekend, be on the lookout for the miraculous. Take a look around and notice. Notice all of the miraculous within you, and around you. You are all, after all, miraculous human beings. Just as you are.

Have a wonderful weekend.

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The Paradox of Love and Truth

Love Fiercely and Independently

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Have you ever thought about the concept and practice of love? I mean really thought about why love looks and feels so different? Hm. I’ve been thinking more about love the past couple of weeks.

Thinking more about how loving fiercely is so important to our lives; and, yet, paradoxically, how living independently is also just as, even maybe more, important.

Right, well, before we get too far into our discussion, let’s define love, shall we? I know, I know. We all know what love is, right? So, why define it?

Well, I think it helps us create a specific context that will aid in our discussion of love.

Alright, here we go.

love

noun  /lʌv/ /lʌv/Idioms

[uncountable] a very strong feeling of liking and caring for somebody/something, especially a member of your family or a friend

Oxford Learner’s Dictionaries

There.

Alright, now, what do I mean by loving independently. Well, just that. Loving fiercely, and yet loving in a way that allows you to always be who you are. Always.

Right, so here is the definition of independent. You knew I would.

independent

adjective OPAL W /ˌɪndɪˈpendənt/ /ˌɪndɪˈpendənt/

(of a country) having its own government

 confident and free to do things without needing help from other people

Oxford Learner’s Dictionaries

Okay. Here is what we have thus far.

Generating fierce feelings of liking and caring for somebody or something, especially a member of your family or a friend, with the confidence and freedom to do things without needing help from others.

Well, that’s close, yet not quite right. Again, it’s more about always remaining true to the human being you are. Let’s try that again.

Generating fierce feelings of liking and caring for somebody or something, especially a member of your family or a friend, with the confidence and freedom to always be true to the human being you are.

There, that’s much better.

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Why is the notion of loving fiercely and independently important?

Because if you live your life fiercely, you will do everything fiercely, love included. It works that way. And, it is beautiful.

And, to love fiercely, which is to experience vulnerability, nay, to practice it, is also beautiful; and, to do so always remaining true to the human being you are now and will be in the future is also beautiful.

Here is how Brené Brown describes loving fiercely.

“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees – these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude and grace.”

― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

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You may be asking yourself, okay, and if we become dependent?

Becoming dependent on another human being happens. In fact, it, at some point, happens to us all. Yep, that is true.

Yet, we can remain true to our independent self, while also being dependent. A paradox? Yep.

In this context, independence is more about being your true self, today, and always. And, even if you are dependent on another human being, you can retain your true self, thus continuing to be independent.

That’s fun.

And, what happens when we become dependent, while not remaining true to our own true self?

Right. Well, we lose ourselves in the process. Or, rather, it is more like we bury our true selves under tons of emotional debris. It is very hard to begin the process of finding our true selves when buried that deep.

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Yet, it is possible.

The most important thing to note is that it is the awareness that is missing.

Thus, loving fiercely while also remaining true to our true self for many remains a paradox in language, and, more than likely, in practice.

This paradox is especially true in the United States where we are socialized with a very narrow view of love, called romantic love, which, in the end, can become more like attachment. The issue?

Well, when we are attached, dependency follows, and then? We end up sacrificing the true self we know ourselves to be. Not all at once. Nope.

Yet, over time, without an awareness on how attachment and dependency function, it happens that our true self becomes, as was aforementioned, buried. Phew. Difficult.

Loving fiercely is a wonderful experience, the scope of which includes much more than romantic love.

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It starts with us. How we treat our bodies and minds, which is exactly how we will treat others. Yep.

Love is such a beautiful experience. When we love all there is to love about, well, ourselves, each other, every person, and thing on this planet, it is magical. Really.

And, when we do so, while also taking care to always retain and honor our true self, guess what?

The love we hold for ourselves, and for others, is also more true. Why?

Because we are not sacrificing our true self for others. We are always true to our true self. Doing the opposite is a road full of pain and suffering.

Love you first.

Love everything about you, the way you look, the way you are, the way you feel, all of the ways you occur. You are just as you are supposed to be. Right now, at this very moment. Just so.

And?

When we really get that and feel it for ourselves, it goes out from us and spreads to everyone and everything else. Yep.

We send love inward, and it radiates outwards. A beautiful experience. Love firecily. You did, do, and will always deserve it.

#brenebrown, #dependency, #love, #loveasaparadox, #loving-yourself, #lovingfiercely, #lovingindependently, #lovingourselves, #romanticlove, #trueself, #truth

The Paradox of Servant Leadership

Why Care, Compassion, and Accountability Are Engaging

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I’m always reflecting upon service. It’s always been a big part of my life. I started out in the “service industry” at 16, and never, really, ever looked back.

What I’ve been reflecting upon even more recently, is just how important service is in, well, everything we do. It’s not just about the work we do, in the professional sense.

It’s more about all of the work we do. All of it. And, it starts with each of us, and how we take care of and, in effect, serve ourselves. Really.

I was telling a colleague of mine today, as they prepared to train a group of local leadership, that in order to hold other people accountable, we must first hold ourselves accountable. It’s how it works.

Something this colleague knows very well indeed.

And, as was aforementioned, service is no exception to this rule. In order to serve others, we must first learn to serve ourselves.

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We are all looking for places to serve. Places where we can make a difference, where we can be a part of something larger than ourselves. A paradox? Yep.

Because in order to be a part of something larger than yourself, you must first be in touch with yourself, know yourself, treat yourself with love and kindness, and hold yourself accountable to a standard.

A standard that is engaged with and committed to creating and effecting change. Changing that which we know, the status quo, with something, well, quite different.

Within this possibility, there are innumerable opportunities to serve. Fun.

Alright, ready? Good. Here we go.

Servant Leadership

I’ve written a couple of articles about servant leadership, which includes, The Blog + Video Series #14: Servant Leadership: A Practical Leadership Style for Life and Work.

The basic tenant of servant leadership is that service is paramount to leadership as a philosophy and a practice. Both.

That to lead, we must lead from a perspective that fully understands that nothing happens without the entire team; and, that, it is because of each team members contribution to the team that movement and traction are even possible.

Servant leadership upends the traditional leadership hierarchy, putting the needs of front-line workers first. Important.

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And, as we’ve already discussed, servant leadership is, both conceptually and practically, a leadership style that works for all aspects of life.

When we take care of ourselves and lead from within, we can then take care of others and lead from without. If not, well, true leadership of any kind is impossible.

Sometimes there is confusion about servant leadership.

Meaning that people sometimes connect servant leadership to a laissez faire type context. And, servant leadership both conceptually and practically is far from that type of context.

In fact, a servant leadership context will often be full of standards and expectations that are higher than other leadership contexts. Yep. Common. Why?

Well, inside of serving, as was aforementioned, is the need to create change. Creating new possibilities, new ways of communicating, new ways of, well, doing most things.

When you create a context that is committed to changing the status quo, no matter how small or large that change is, there have to be higher standards and expectations.

And, in some cases, the highest standard must be demanded. Why?

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Because there is so much more to accomplish. That’s it really. More work, more movement, more traction, more change. Amazing.

And, where there is change and innovation of this magnitude, there must be great care, compassion, and accountability, both for the self, the team, and the organization. And, yep, for the nation, and the world too.

Care

What is engagement, really? When you think about that word, what do you see, or think about? Hm.

For me, I think about contexts that are brimming with challenges and difficulties, yep, and celebrations. Why?

Because when you are truly engaged with yourself, and the people around you, you will experience both. You have to.

Being engaged, is living a full life, and the giving out of that life to everyone around you. It is extremely fun and rewarding and, yep, also difficult.

All service, regardless of the context, professional or personal, requires determination, persistence, and resilience. Oh, and great care. Yep.

When you are engaged, you care. Simple. Oftentimes, people get confused and think that when things are difficult that there is a problem. A paradox? Yep.

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When things are difficult, you are engaged, you are doing, and you are creating. No problem here.

When are there problems?

Well, if you subscribe to notions of problems, then the only time there are real problems is when there is disengagement. Where things are easy, moving simply, no speed bumps. Why?

Because, if there are no issues, nothing to overcome, then, nothing is really happening. Yep.

Now, that’s not really a problem either. Not really.

It’s only a problem if you are looking to be engaged. I always know when I am most engaged at work or in my life. How?

Because there is always, and I mean always, something to celebrate, and something to overcome. A challenge, always.

These engaging contexts also require, as was aforementioned, great care. Really. Why?

Because when you are fully engaged, and are working through issues that arise, care about all things and everyone, yourself, and all those around you, is always there.

And, that is because you are going through something.

You are developing, iterating, and, yep, in some cases, even transforming. Beautiful.

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Compassion

Because a servant leadership context is a highly engaging one, where people will bring their all every day, compassion is also required.

Compassion for yourself, for how very, very hard it is sometimes, and for those around you. Sometimes, people will decide it’s just too much, and that is okay.

There was a time when I desperately wanted everyone to stay. And, I would coach people endlessly to this end. No pun intended.

Yet, a servant leadership context is not what everyone is looking for, and that is also okay. Knowing this releases you and everyone else from an obligation that truly doesn’t exist.

And, practicing compassion is what that looks like. Understanding that people will leave. And, guess what?

It’s better for them to do so.

Better to find a context that suits them more, feels better to them, and will in the long run be much more beneficial for them. Important.

Accountability

One of the most paradoxical aspects of servant leadership is in the area of accountability. And, there was a time where accountability within a servant leadership paradigm also confused me.

The bottom line?

Accountability matters. People actually want to be held accountable to a higher standard. Knowing that their work and service, whatever it is, is making a change in the world.

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Again, no matter how small or large that change is, matters much less, than that people get to participate in something that, yes, inspires them, and, even more importantly, actively creates change in the world. Fun.

It is a ton of work. Yep. Yet, who ever said that life was supposed to be easy?

I know. That is such a cliche, and yet it does work here.

Think about any change, nay, think about some of the largest institutional and cultural changes of all time. Now, answer this question.

Were they easy?

Nope, not a single one. They are not supposed to be. Therefore, having a high standard and instituting accountability is not only needed, it is also positively reinforcing the servant leadership context that has been created. How?

Because serving yourself, setting the highest standard for yourself that you can, means that you will also set that same standard for the people around you. And?

They will rise to meet it, just as you are.

For more on Servant Leadership check out these resources.

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A Time Poem

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I continue to reflect upon time. It has been, is, very present for me. We create so much of our lives around time. Yet, paradoxically, time is, as I wrote about in The Social Construction Series Part 5: The Social Construction of Time, a social construction. Hm.

Alright, how about a time poem? Here we go.

Time is not
What you think it is
Fleeting and everlasting

A paradox
Like all life

Happiness and sadness
Are just the same
We think we know them

Yet yearn for more

More time, more happiness
And then less
Less time, less sadness

And where do we look?

We look outside, into the world
For the answers, and
Come up shy

It is not found there
Someone said

Though we know this truth
We run away from the answer
Hidden inside

It must be out there
I can touch it, smell it, taste it, feel it

We believe in it and
run after it
Yet all the time it was
right there
waiting patiently for our return

Have a lovely evening, and be well.

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A Bloggers Diary 10/14/20: On COVID-19, Breakdowns, and Our Emotional Self

Right, so I was getting ready to write this post about something totally different. Namely, about Medium, the writing I’m working on this week, and one or two other topics. And, then?

Well, it occurred to me that I’ve not written about COVID-19 in a while, and I wanted to return, as if I’d ever really left, to the pandemic to discuss what some people are talking about, and some are not. Why? It’s hard.

Breakdowns, breakthroughs, and our emotional self. Hm. Alright, stay with me.

A couple of months ago I did a video and an accompanying blog called, A Journey from Breakdown to Breakthrough, and then a few weeks ago I wrote the post, Experiencing and Coping with Our Emotions: There is A Different Way Why?

Because destigmatizing breakdowns is important. They happen to us all. Really. Even if we don’t have access to the language to know that we are in an emotional breakdown, for instance, they happen. And?

A Journey from Breakdown to Breakthrough

Acknowledging and accepting our breakdowns is important to fully understand what’s happening within ourselves; and, to get to that insight delivered via breakthrough that will come on the other side of our breakdown.

Example? Sure. It’s very present for me.

In conversation with the team yesterday, well, some of the team, I received feedback that I didn’t see coming. Not at all. And?

Well, the feedback was excellent, and was timely and needed, yet the due date for the work that is affected by this new information is this week.

Phew. Pressure.

Right, so I went into breakdown, and stayed there for a couple of hours. What did this look like? Well, it looked like I was doing the rest of my day, driving to physical therapy, then to the store, then finally home.

When I got home?

Well, I showered, and then sat for my evening meditation. And? On the other side of my meditation, many insights occurred, which I captured for the following morning, this morning, in fact. And?

Photo by Simon Berger on Unsplash

Well, getting back into the conversation this morning with new insight, a new perspective, and an additional colleague created a new way forward.

Yep. Did I see that possibility while I was in breakdown last night? Nope, not at all.

Yet, the more breakdowns and breakthroughs I go through, the more inner-knowing I have that an insight, or a combination of insights and perspectives, will deliver a solution to the issue.

Meaning that, yes, the changes that will need to be made will take time and coordination, yet there is workability. There is a way forward. And, there always is.

And, when we are in breakdown, we can’t always see these possibilities. And, that’s okay. Yes, scary at times, yet perfectly normal.

That, for me anyway, is the essence of a breakdown. Being unable to see far enough, due to my entanglement, in those moments, within my own self.

Photo by Elena Mozhvilo on Unsplash

Being in touch with our emotional self has never been more important than it is today.

The pandemic has ushered in many more unknowns. Really. Many more unknowns for all of us. Personally, familially, organizationally, nationally, culturally, at every level. Every level.

Tonight I am very present to the beauty in accepting and being with my breakdowns as they occur. Staying with them, going inside of myself to see what’s there, and to the knowing that insights will come. They always do.

When you are feeling overwhelmed and a breakdown is imminent, remember, you are not alone. They happen to us all, and in the long run they are beneficial.

They simply mean you are growing as a human being. Growing into yourself, through yourself. Beautiful.

Be well, and have a lovely week.

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