In my last entry on gardening, I wrote about getting a community garden plot for this first time in a long time. It’s been 4 or 5 years since I’ve been a part of a community garden.
The community garden is just down the street from where I live, and has only been in existence for 4 years or so.
The plot I have is 20’x10’, which is a little large for me, yet I’ve managed to work the entire plot and ready it for planting.
Here is what it looks like after a month of working the soil.
Yep, it’s ready. Excited.
Now, in this part of the United States, it rains a lot. A lot, a lot. Which means that you have to wait to sow the seeds directly into the ground until the winter frost has mostly dwindled. Yet, you can also start seeds indoors, which I will also be doing, and will write more about next time.
Once I made my vegetable choices, I started to plan out the garden space. At that same time, I read an article about planning a garden plot. I learned a lot. There are actually applications and software programs you can use today, which make planning much easier.
Many of the applications and software programs are not free, yet I did manage to find one on the Old Farmer’s Almanac that had a free 7 day trial. The software program is amazing.
Here is the garden plot plan I created with the software program.
Pretty fun, yes? Yep, it’s pretty cool.
I am excited to begin to plant. I will start the planting process this weekend, and continue it over the next couple of weeks. I should have all of the seeds into the ground by late April.
Alright, that’s this week’s installment of My One Thing This Spring: Gardening Part 2, Readying the Soil and Planning the Garden Plot. Next time, I hope to have some sprouting veggies to show you.
Have you ever thought about how relationships work? I mean how they function within the systems and spheres that we move through? It is an interesting question, and one that we will explore in this post.
Now, in this post, we are going to expand on this simple relationship diagram, so we can see the movement that occurs through each of these relationship spheres. Let’s start with the relationship we have with ourselves, as it really does all start there.
Without a high-quality relationship with ourselves, we cannot create high-quality relationships with others. Why? Because if we don’t know how to take care of ourselves, to love ourselves, we cannot give care and love out to others. Not in a sustainable way.
We must first develop deep care and love for ourselves, then that same deep care and love will go out from us to others.
Relationships with Family
Once we have a high-quality relationship with ourselves, we can truly be there for our family. In being there, I mean have open, honest, and loving communication with each other; developing those high-quality relationships along the way.
When we are inattentive to our emotions, and are reacting without pausing, there is a higher likelihood that arguments with our partners will become more common. These pauseless reactions also function the same way with and toward our children.
It is important to note that we are not reacting to our environments in this way intentionally. Fully understanding how we are reactive, includes learning about our “triggers.” What are they, whom are they with, and why do we have them? Once we know, we can create space to pause, think and reflect, and then choose a different action.
All of which when combined with having a loving relationship with ourselves, free of blame and shame, creates whole new possibilities with the relationships we have with our family.
Relationships at Work
In the post, Three Transformational Leadership Skills, I write about developing high-quality relationships at work. Developing these relationships, like the ones we have with family, also starts with ourselves.
Once we are clear on who we are, and how we think and feel, we can develop work relationships that are strong and long-lasting. In the article I note three essential skills all leaders should develop in order to create these high-quality relationships.
Authenticity – knowing who we are is the first step, then being who we are all the time is the next.
Safety – creating a safe environment with the team you lead, or work on, is essential. People will not be authentic with you unless you are also authentic, and they feel safe.
Transparency – being forthright about the state of the business, and issues that arise, are also important. Sharing with the people you work with is important for them to feel included, and valued.
These three skills, of course, are also important for us to develop in our personal lives. It works like that. What we develop for ourselves, we end up developing for everyone around us.
Relationships with the Communityand The Greater World
How we develop ourselves, and our relationships then goes out from us and into the community, and, yes, the greater world. When we create a focus on our inner development, people around us develop, and the community also develops. That is movement.
The movement is part of the way the relationship network, or system works. Here is a simple illustration that goes a bit further than the above referenced system image, showing that we are connected through everyone we know, ultimately, to all people.
By continuing to add more contexts into the above illustration, you can create more complexity in how the relationship system is interwoven.
Ultimately we are connected to everyone, and everything, and what we give out, comes back to us. All contexts are also connected, sometimes directly, and sometimes indirectly, as the above illustration also shows.
Whether the connection is direct or indirect matters less, than the realization that all that we do on this planet as human beings touches each other in some way. Important.
Relationships are so important. Really. The relationship we have with ourselves is the starting point, and, as you can see, it is only the beginning of how we, as human beings, end up touching everyone and everything around us. Even when we don’t know about it.
These relationships and all that we give and get from them are crucial to moving society forward. Without them, there would be no movement.
Know that every action you take to develop and grow yourself also grows your family, friends, teams, organizations, communities, and the greater world.